Some of my best nights in the club are when I am solo. Alone, but not ‘lonely’ as they say. This may sound strange, but it is definitely true.
Why is this? It seems you would do better with your friends, or a ‘wing man’, and of course this is true often enough. But there is something about being out there by myself that gets my blood pumping.
So, what are some ideas or tips I have on this subject?
• Just do it. I don’t care if your friend bails on you at 8pm, it doesn’t matter that you have to drive 30 minutes all by your lonesome. Just get out there. Hey, if you stay home you know what will happen – nothing! At least if you get out there you can stir the pot a little, and maybe get into a little ‘good’ trouble. [Note. This is speaking from a guy’s standpoint of course. In theory I think the same should apply to women. However, I would clearly suggest that women tame more precaution when out alone.]
• Find a guy to talk to. Yes, I am straight and very secure in my sexuality, so I can say this. Why put pressure on yourself to meet a lady right away. Maybe meet a guy or two, who knows, you may find a new wing man. I remember being at one of my favorite clubs Blue Martin several months back. I was solo. I noticed a cool European looking guy at the bar. We started chatting, hung out. I met a new friend, Cengiz from Turkey. When I left Cengiz it was around 2 and my last view of him was as he was sandwiched between two 30something babes on the dance floor. I was definitely glad I went out solo that night.
• Give yourself a goal to have at least one meaningful conversation during the evening. That conversation can be with a guy (see above) or with a lady. But, don’t put pressure on yourself to talk with a lady right away. Just talk, be cordial, the rest will take care of itself.
• Enjoy the music, ambience, the smell, the evening. Just take it all in. Be glad you can get out and enjoy life.
You’ll notice that none of my suggestions or goals involved having to meet a lady, dance, get a number, etc.. . All these things are out of your control, so no need to put pressure on yourself. Control what you can(your own actions) and leave the rest to.. the rest.