Alright, dare I go here? Dare a straight guy write a blog about dressing for a night out? The intelligent answer is ‘No’, but what the hell, let’s go for it. So, take this for what it’s worth. (A penny for your thought?)
Dressing is important as it not only gets us in the right mood, but it projects who we are. Yes, it is important who we are on the inside, but surely that great person on the inside wants to dress well so the outside matches?
For guys it is really not too hard. You can do a lot with a little. This is one area where it is much easier to be a guy. Yet, sadly, so many guys blow it still. One simple rule of thumb – It is always better to dress nice. I am not saying sport those Dockers and blue tie at the club Friday night, but T-shirts and tennis shoes have got to stay home. Guys have it easy, all we basically need are:
- Couple pairs of nice shoes (black and brown).
- 2-3 pair of nice jeans
- Black and/or other color of more dressy slacks (not business slacks)
- 5-6 nice shirts
- 1-2 blazers
Yes, yes, I know there are many more items, but these are the basics. You can add some ‘dress’ sneakers, vests, mi x in a tie now and then, etc, etc. But those are the basics. Like I said, guys have it easy.
Now for the ladies. Like all things involving the ladies, things are much more tricky. I may be wrong here, but I say dress for your mood and the event. I say this as I am out and about quite often. I can be at a formal/semi-formal fundraiser or a wild night on the town, in each of these I see some terrific ladies. Some really look terrific, and some miss the mark.
I am probably taking a much too much analytical approach to this, but when I think of how ladies dress, I think of two scales. Scale one is how dressy or casual they are and scale two is how sexy or conservative they are. So, bear with me here. With these two scales, we are left with four quadrants.
- Dressy and Conservative
- Casual and Conservative
- Dressy and Sexy
- Casual and Sexy
So, depending on your e mood and the event, you’ll be in primarily one of these quadrants. Or, if you are a real pro, you’ll layer or ‘de-layer’ to move between the quadrants as the fay/evening or your mood or alcohol level changes. [My personal ‘de-layering’ strategy is the transition from the Dressy / Conservative to the Dressy / Sexy – Off go the panties and blazer. Now we’re down to business.]
Not that this is the end all be all, but this just helps me as I look survey the field of lovely ladies. Each quadrant occupies an important event or part of the day, and dressing for each should be thought through. It is evident that some gals get this right. They are really thoughtful and they take the time to dress for the event and the mood they are in. Others’ seem to make little effort.
So, in the course of my day, whether I am solo or spending time with a lady friend, some of the events and moods may look like this:
Dressy and Conservative: Attending a fundraiser or business event. She looks good, conservative, but nice. Maybe a little sexy is trying to sneak in, but not too much. Like a good book, just makes me want to hang around a little more.
Casual and Conservative: Maybe this is lunch with friends/family or shopping. I often refer to this as ‘cute and colorful’. We can’t be too sexy here, so what we hold back on the sexy, we can pump up with the color. A little leg and/or cleavage is OK, but not too much.
Dressy and Sexy: My personal favorite, well I guess anything on the sexy scale is my favorite if the truth must be told. I think of this as the Saturday night sexy dress or the ‘sexy wife’ look. I really mean that as a compliment as there is nothing slutty about looking sexy, though some confuse the two. The girl with this look dresses great, there’s just not too much ‘quantity’ to what she is wearing, it’s all ‘quality’ baby. She’s strong. She’s sexy, she knows what she wants, and she’ll probably get it. Panties optional, at least after midnight.
Casual and Sexy: Maybe this is the Friday night outfit, or just a more casual venue, or perhaps this is hanging with a group of friends. Short jean skirt, tight jeans, low cut top, bustier top, backless halter, the list goes on. This chick is hot and she knows it. Always a happy ending here, at least for her.
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