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There are 50 million social singles in the world today, trying to make connections. At 37 years old, recently divorced with a young daughter, I suddenly found myself to be one of them. I was forced into the wild and crazy world of trying to meet folks in clubs and bars, conversing over loud music and adult beverages and dancing with strangers. Once thrust back into this scene, the club rules hit me like a ton of bricks. I remembered proper protocol dictating club behavior. Unfortunately, it appeared that not everybody around me knew what I assumed to be standard procedure.

The problem with these clubs is they have the potential to intimidate club-goers. Whether you’re young or old, recently single or somebody who has never had a relationship, recently divorced or somebody who has no desire to ever marry, these clubs are full of potential surprises, potential heartache and potential embarrassment.

Because of said potentials, rules developed. When people adhere to the club rules, they 100% without a doubt, money-back guarantee, no strings or gimmicks, have a blast. So, sit back, enjoy the ride, and by all means…take notes!

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Heading Out Solo

06/04/2013   |   No Comments »

Some of my best nights in the club are when I am solo. Alone, but not ‘lonely’ as they say. This may sound strange, but it is definitely true.

Why is this? It seems you would do better with your friends, or a ‘wing man’, and of course this is true often enough. But there is something about being out there by myself that gets my blood pumping.

So, what are some ideas or tips I have on this subject?

• Just do it. I don’t care if your friend bails on you at 8pm, it doesn’t matter that you have to drive 30 minutes all by your lonesome. Just get out there. Hey, if you stay home you know what will happen – nothing! At least if you get out there you can stir the pot a little, and maybe get into a little ‘good’ trouble. [Note. This is speaking from a guy’s standpoint of course. In theory I think the same should apply to women. However, I would clearly suggest that women tame more precaution when out alone.]
• Find a guy to talk to. Yes, I am straight and very secure in my sexuality, so I can say this. Why put pressure on yourself to meet a lady right away. Maybe meet a guy or two, who knows, you may find a new wing man. I remember being at one of my favorite clubs Blue Martin several months back. I was solo. I noticed a cool European looking guy at the bar. We started chatting, hung out. I met a new friend, Cengiz from Turkey. When I left Cengiz it was around 2 and my last view of him was as he was sandwiched between two 30something babes on the dance floor. I was definitely glad I went out solo that night.
• Give yourself a goal to have at least one meaningful conversation during the evening. That conversation can be with a guy (see above) or with a lady. But, don’t put pressure on yourself to talk with a lady right away. Just talk, be cordial, the rest will take care of itself.
• Enjoy the music, ambience, the smell, the evening. Just take it all in. Be glad you can get out and enjoy life.

You’ll notice that none of my suggestions or goals involved having to meet a lady, dance, get a number, etc.. . All these things are out of your control, so no need to put pressure on yourself. Control what you can(your own actions) and leave the rest to.. the rest.

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